What do we worry about at night? Turns out that we're not
all that different from each other in our deep-seated worries. We all worry
about the same things every night: finances, relationships, appearance, health,
future events, and self.
1. You
mull over your finances woes at night.
Talk to your partner or someone you trust about your
personal financial situation
Finding someone you trust to just discuss money issues is a
helpful way to get clarity to your financial situation. It doesn't have to be
your spouse; it can be your parent or friend.
2. You
think, Why can't I make more money? Or Why can't I advance in my career?
As for furthering
your career, in the morning, write down three steps you could take to bring
your career to the next step. Then the key step is to schedule it. It's really
weird seeing that in your calendar, but as they say, "If it's not
scheduled, it's not real."
3. You
want to buy something, but you worry because it's clearly out of your budget.
The concept of
delayed gratification is the key here. Have you ever heard of the marshmallow
experiments? A Stanford scientist asked kids to either eat one marshmallow
immediately or wait approximately 15 minutes to receive two marshmallows. The
latter group ended up with higher SAT scores, educational achievement, and
better BMI, among other things.
4. You worry that someone has more than you.
Instead, think in an abundance mindset. What's an abundance
mindset? I describe it as a mindset that doesn't treat others as competition.
Instead, the abundance mindset makes you believe there's plenty to go around,
and that collaborating together can make everyone more successful. People who
live in the scarcity mindset are suspicious, jealous and think that there's not
enough money or success to go around.
5. You
mull over the same person (or two!) in your life who just brings you down.
Actively avoid negative people in your life. You're not
stuck with the family members or friends who bring negativity in your life. The
best gift you can give yourself is to surround yourself with people who make
you better.
6. You
worry about your weight.
Despite the claims, the elusive magic pill has yet to be
found. But you can do something. You can't control your genetics, but you can
control food, toxins and exercise. Control what you can, and let go of the
rest.
7. You
worry about a future event that may or may not happen.
The author Wayne Dyer writes that worrying is taking you
away from being present in your life. Don't waste your "now" moments
by worrying about the future.
8. You
worry that you are not good enough.
This is where gratitude comes in really handy. Spend a few
moments each day to think of three things you're thankful for. Be thankful a
few times a day, and you won't be so hard on yourself.
9. You
worry about "balancing it all."
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