Most of us don’t like liars. In fact, we often feel
offended, even angry, when another person lies to us. But the truth is, we lie
to ourselves every day.
We engage in negative self talk and thought patterns
that inhibit our personal growth and limit our ability to live a full and
grounded life. We deserve to live life fully, to experience all of the joy and
mystery that life has to offer. The first step towards this way of being is
awareness.
Here I have listed 6 lies that we need to stop telling
ourselves in order to push past our own limitations and begin to enjoy the
totality of living for which we are destined.
1. Success
is the Opposite of Failure
There are no failures, just results. Even if things don’t
unfold the way you expected, don’t give up. Learn what you can and keep moving.
The one who continues to advance in this way, one step at a time, is the one
who ultimately wins in the end. The battle is always won long before the final
victory. It’s a mindset. Success is a process that consists of small steps,
decisions, and actions that gradually build upon each other.
2. I’m
too old for that
You are never too old to go after what you want. Nelson
Mandela was 76 when he became president. Leonardo Da Vinci was 51 years old
when he painted the Mona Lisa. Dr. Seuss was 54 when he wrote The Cat in the
Hat. Colonel Sanders was 61 when he started the KFC Franchise. There are
countless other examples. Everyone is on their own timeline. And you are never
too old or too young to fulfill your calling.
3. It
is better to give than to Receive
It’s a nice thought and useful if you’re a particularly
self-centered individual but I don’t think it’s true. Maybe we can replace that
lie with, “It’s better to give AND receive.” Because neither is “better” than
the other. They are in balance. It’s simple math, for every giver there must be
a receiver. And to take it one step further, giving is psychologically easier
than receiving because there’s no sense of self worth needed to give. You can
give the best parts of yourself away because you don’t feel worthy of having
them. But to be willing to receive means you feel worthy of accepting gifts
from others.
4. I can
do it tomorrow
Maybe one of the most frequent lies we tell ourselves. But
we all know it’s not true! The trouble is, you always think you have more time
than you do. But one day you will wake up and there won’t be any more time to
work on the things you’ve always wanted to do. No one knows what the future
holds and what good does it do to live in the “one of these days” mindset? The
life you have is today and the time to live it is now. Besides, if we all
waited until we were ready, we would never get anything done!
5. Its
wrong to be Self-centered
Sometimes being selfish is healthy. We could all learn to
say, “no” every now and then. And stop apologizing all the time. It’s your
life! Your emotions! Your choices! So choose what’s best for you. And stop
caring what other people think about your decisions. If/when it comes down to
choosing between someone else or something else and yourself always choose
yourself.
6. A
Crisis is a Bad Thing
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