Two Types of Emotional Intelligence

Two Types of Emotional Intelligence's

Emotional Intelligence

Emotional Intelligence describes our ability to assess and understand our emotions, as well as the emotions/feelings of those around us. We can be described either as having high emotional intelligence or low emotional intelligence, or fall somewhere in the middle. Our emotional intelligence level has a strong impact on our relationships. Here’s what emotional Intelligence means for our personalities and how it affects our relationships:

A1: High Emotional Intelligence

A person with a high emotional intelligence level will be good at understanding and interpreting emotions. They are good in social situations and are able to handle conflict well. They have no problem expressing their feelings and are comfortable in situations that are emotionally charged. People with a high emotional intelligence are able to talk about their feelings. They are good at reading other peoples emotions and picking up on how other people feel. In relationships, someone with a high emotional intelligence would be in touch with how they feel about the relationship, and would have no problem expressing it to their partner. They would be aware of how their partner feels and would easily pick up on any unhappiness in their partner. They would do well in relationship counseling or a setting where they need to speak at length about their feelings. For someone who doesn’t like talking about their feelings, it would be a challenge to be a in relationship with someone who has a high emotional intelligence level, but two people with a high emotional intelligence would do well together and enjoy talking about their feelings together.

A2: Low Emotional Intelligence

A person with low emotional intelligence does not enjoy talking about their feelings, and is not even aware of their emotions much of the time. They are not in tune with their emotions and do not deal well in emotional situations. They are uncomfortable expressing emotions in front of other people or hearing other people talk about their feelings. They are not good at interpreting other people’s non-verbal communication to understand how they are feeling. They often can’t describe how they feel because they don’t understand it themselves. A relationship with someone with a low emotional intelligence can be frustrating because they never want to talk about how they feel, and they don’t pick up on cues that their partner is unhappy. They don’t do well with confrontation, so they often shut down in arguments or conversations about emotions. They would be very uncomfortable in any type of couples counselling. People with low emotional intelligence often don’t have good communication in their relationships as they avoid talking about anything that involves how they or their partners are feeling. They often have trouble getting close to others because they aren’t able to open up emotionally