4 Factors Affect how Emotional we Are
A1. Personality – By
nature, some people are more enthusiastic, excitable and changeable. They may
feel as if they’re on an emotional roller coaster ride with unexpected swings
in the way they feel.
A2.
Early life experiences – If our main caregiver was sensitive to
us and responded to our needs in an appropriate way then we’re likely to be on
a more even keel. However, if our caregiver ignored us, or we picked up the
message that a lot of fuss was needed to get a small response then we might
have a tendency to over-react. Alternatively, we may have concluded that
nothing makes a difference so put up barriers and hardly feel at all.
A3. Family
norms - Some families are chaotic and unpredictable. It seems
like everything that happens to them is a crisis, there are outbursts of
emotion, and feelings are intense. Other families are more stable - and they
reward staying calm, controlling your emotions and thinking rationally.
A4.
Cultural norms – These can vary widely and they define the
norms for a country, culture or social group. For example, the Italians are
known for being emotional. They are warm, affectionate, and show how the feel.
In contrast, the British are uncomfortable with showing their emotions – and
are known for having “a stiff upper lip”.
A5. Negative
life experience – If you’ve experienced a trauma that shattered
your world you may expect the worst, and always be on edge. Alternatively, you
may have buried your emotions as way of surviving and now it’s hard for you to
feel anything.
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