Relationships are full of give and take situations, and being able to
compromise is generally considered to be a good thing. But there are situations
that arise where you need to stand your ground and not give in. Here’s when to
compromise and when to stand firm:
Compromise
· If you always get your way. If you’re the one
always winning every debate and your partner is always giving in to what you
want, it’s time for you to switch roles and start being the one to compromise.
Your relationship won’t last much longer if you are never willing to give in.
· If the issue is really important to them. If
you’re dealing with something that you know is really important to your
partner, it might be worthwhile to compromise and let them have their way.
· If it’s not a big deal. If you’re not hung up
either way on the outcome, then pick your battles and let them win.
Compromising on little things that don’t really matter to you is easy to do and
you can save getting your way for when it’s a bigger deal to you.
· As a tradeoff. If you both want something you
can give in on one issue as a tradeoff to getting what you want on another.
Maybe you’ll go to their family reunion if they agree to give you more romantic
time together, or whatever it is that you want. You’re compromising but you
both end up winning.
Stand Firm
· If it’s a major issue for you. Don’t compromise
when you believe strongly in something and it’s really important to you. You
can be flexible but still stand your ground and not compromise your integrity
and values.
· If they’re pressuring you. Stand firm and don’t
allow yourself to be pressured into anything that you aren’t comfortable with.
Don’t give in to something just because they’re really bugging you about it.
· If you always let them win. If you’re always
giving in and letting them get their way it’s important to stand firm once in a
while so that they know that you aren’t a doormat. You should both get your way
equally, rather than having one person dominate.
· When they want something out of sync with your “big
picture”. If they want something that isn’t in line with the direction
you want the relationship to go in, then you need to stand your ground. Don’t
compromise and allow them to steer the relationship in a different way than you
want. If you have a committed, long term relationship in mind and they want to
be able to date other people on the side, stand firm because if you give in,
the relationship will be completely off-base from what you want.
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