In school, college, street, office etc.,
how many friends do you have? Are they worthy? How many kinds of friends do you
have? If somebody says he doesn't have friends, then don’t believe him. Anybody
and everybody must have at least a single friend at any point of time.
2. Boredom. After watching several times even your favorite film bores you. Why can’t a person? After doing the same work millions of times and watching the same faces trillions of times without variation results in the form of a kind of irritation, anger and rebelism in you. Even just coming outside of your office for a small wind can please you then. That is the extenion of your boredom.
(NOTE: This
article is all about very ordinary people. I am not speaking about kids, super
natural powers, Ram gopal varma devotees and mini Howard roarks. )
When it comes to the opposite sex, it may
go beyond the line. Most of the times, teenagers would be in chaos, thinking
about their relation with the opposite sex. That is the reason many of the guys
can’t make friendship with girls.
To their comfort, they fix specific
relation with girls except friendship. Because, the society has always a
suspecting eye which makes a teen girl – teen guy relation uncomfortable.
That’s why many of the girlfriends won’t remain as just girl friends for a
longer period of time in teenage.
Lets come to the male-to-male (OR)
female-to-female friends, there are four types of friends anyone in the world
could have in their life time. ( I don’t want to speak anything about gay
relations. ) Not only teenagers, lets consider all the age groups.
The first friend is one who spends his time
with you. Can a time pass kind of one be really called as friend? Yes, of
course. Which name can you give to him? Now a days, for many teenagers, life
becomes dry without a friend to spend time. However, this kind of friendship
isn't worthy.
Second one, whom you need in your work (OR)
profession. He may be called as your colleague. But, a cricketer can’t call his
team mate a colleague. In many of the organizations and offices you may permit
them as your colleagues only, due to two reasons:
1. You
are not really passionate to your work. You just do it for the sake of money.
You are facing hardships while doing your work. This leads to a kind of
negativity occurs in your mind. When you think about your office and work. All
this reflects in the behavior of yours on your co – workers. Either you would
do politics on them (colleagues) OR you would be embroiled in the politics they
play on you. That’s the reason many of the colleagues remain as enemies and
never they can be friends.
2. Boredom. After watching several times even your favorite film bores you. Why can’t a person? After doing the same work millions of times and watching the same faces trillions of times without variation results in the form of a kind of irritation, anger and rebelism in you. Even just coming outside of your office for a small wind can please you then. That is the extenion of your boredom.
Initially, you may plan being friendly with
your colleagues would work. But you can’t make it possible for much time. If
you are hating someone (OR) being hated by someone in there, no doubt life will
become live hell.
I am not saying two ordinary colleagues in
an office couldn’t be friend. But, in most of the cases, they can’t.
Many times, we un necessarily laugh
to the colleagues jokes, act as if their worries are our worries to build up
good rapport with them for the correct professional exchanges.
A few of us maintain correct relation in
this kind of friendship.
The third one is a pure cheater. So far, I
discussed about how we flatter our co – workers. Here, in this case, we crawl
behind somebody who can give us support in terms of giving money, position,
power etc., Many of us try to make our boss, father, rich friend believe that
we are their well wishers, admires (OR) fans. The right tribute to them is not
to forget them after our needs are satisfactorily achieved.
The fourth friend is one who
psychologically depends upon you. This friend has many psychological
complexities. Our mind strongly addict to something/someone which/who pleases
us when we are accustomated to them. Unaware
of this fact, we call it as true friendship.
In some cases, when we are not getting
sufficient care, love and affection from your parents/relatives does an
ordinary human being gains, sub-consciously we would search for someone to fill
that gap.
Love occurs when we find the correct person
having required sub-conscious traits we have in your mind. Lets cite an
instant, an educated person who knows the value of educated. I apply this same
formula to friendship.
Suppose, a guy is suffering from street
rowdies and goons in his school/college/street OR somewhere else. He finds his
identify in a decent, fair enough guy and tries to get his attention to make
friendship.
But, the thing is Our sensibilities,
tastes, requirements change time to time. Suppose we, in childhood loved TOM
& JERRY shows. Now, that love may be changed to James Bond action and
erotic films. In the same way, one who wants his friend to be decent… one day
could change his mindset to tough guy. Now, when his mind is convinced to this,
the psychological depends is over.
That’s the reason many of these friendships
also can’t stand eternally.
And some people want to feel like a hero by
getting sympathy from others just by claiming he would die for friendship which
is not at all truth. It’s just like donating a rupee to a beggar in front of a
beautiful girl. It’s a game of getting attentions.
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