What She Says, But Really Means.
Decoding female language can seem next to impossible.
Here are 5 classic things that women say when they really mean something else:
A1. “Fine”. It’s not fine. If you’ve
ever been in an argument with your girlfriend and she says, “it’s fine”, this
really means she is totally unimpressed. She thinks that you are so far off
base that it’s not even worth explaining her side anymore, so she’s shutting
down the conversation. She doesn’t really want to drop it, so take a minute and
try to re-approach the conversation from another angle.
A2. “Whatever”.
This passive aggressive comment comes from when she feels like the conversation
is not going the way that she wants and she doesn’t know how to steer it back.
Saying “whatever” is her way of shutting it down and saying, “stop talking
about it and leave me alone”. For now, anyway. She never fully wants to drop
something until it’s resolved, so try again later.
A3. “Do
I look fat?” This isn’t about being fat specifically;
it’s her way of saying that she feels insecure. It could be about her body, her
hair, whatever. So don’t simply re-assure her that those specific pants look
good, but that she looks great over all. And don’t say she looks “fine” or
“ok”. Use a better descriptor like “you look awesome” and she’s more likely to
believe you.
A4. “What
do you think?” When she says this, she’s looking for your
support in making a decision. Or, she wants you to back her up on her choice.
She’s probably already weighed the options and possibilities in her head and
has also likely already decided on what she wants to do, but she’s looking for
confirmation from you.
A5. “Do
whatever you want”. It may sound like she’s giving you
permission but she’s really not. She’s probably saying this because she doesn’t
agree with what you want to do, like if you want to hang out with your buddies
on a Friday night. But she’s not just being controlling - she’s got an
underlying reason why she doesn’t want you to do it. Maybe she feels like
you’re not spending enough time together or she feels underappreciated. Try to
figure out why she doesn’t want you to do it and resolve the underlying issue.
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