Difficult people are hard to avoid and they can
really suck the joy out of life. Below are some tips on things that you can do
to deal with them more effectively:
1. If the provocation comes in the form of an
email, then wait a few days before you hit “reply”. It’s a good idea to let
yourself cool off, as you’re more in control if you wait, and don’t react. It
sends the message that you can’t be pushed around, and there’s nothing they can
do to trigger a response. (Also, you may even decide that you won’t respond at
all.).
2. Ask yourself why it matters if they know that
you are right. Who cares what they might think? You don’t have to prove your
point. They’re not your judge and jury - so why defend yourself!
3. Stop thinking and talking about it. If you
repeat the same old story, and remember grievances, it will soon become your
focus, and consume your waking hours. And there are far better ways for you to
spend your energy.
4. Look for the lessons you can learn from this.
You can always learn from your life experiences – so look for the nugget, and
thank them for their help! You’ve just grown as a person – so it wasn’t wasted
time.
5. Eliminate the negative people in your life.
Negative people really drain your energy. They may want to bring you down (so
you’re as miserable as them), or they may simply get a kick out of being
difficult. And if that is the case,
you don’t need them in your life.
6. Become an observer of your own reactions. Notice
the reactions that other people trigger – and think of why that is, and then
respond in better ways. Becoming self-aware will help you be more in control
(and you’ll deal with that person in a calmer, detached way).
7. Avoid being pulled into emotional discussions.
If something needs to be discussed - then wait - and do it rationally. Intense
shows of emotion rarely lead to good outcomes.
8. Respond by being friendly, understanding and
warm. This is usually unexpected – and catches them off guard. It defuses the
emotion, and helps to calm things down.
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Thank you Pyschtronic timely wisdom and words to ponder everytime the negatives abound!!!
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