Here are some Best tips for Breaking Free from
Co-Dependency.
Check through the list below to see if you have traits of
codependency. They include:
A1. Feeling responsible for other people’s thoughts,
feelings, behaviour or physical, mental and emotional well being.
A2. Repeatedly putting the needs, wishes and wellbeing of
others before your own needs, wishes, and wellbeing. Caring for them is more
important, and takes precedence over, caring for yourself.
A3. Feeling compelled to be there for others. Feeling
most comfortable when you are putting yourself out for others … or are doing
everything you can to support them … or are desperately helping them to find
solutions. At the same time, you feel guilty about asking for, and receiving
help, from other people.
A4. Staying in relationships that have little benefit to
you, and may even prove to be harmful or abusive. Excusing and tolerating poor
treatment for the sake of maintaining peace and harmony.
A5. Repeating the pattern of going from one unhealthy or
abusive relationship to another, similar relationship Having low self worth and
low self esteem.
To break the self destructive patterns above:
A1. Recognize that you have a tendency to be drawn into
codependent relationships – and make the decision to change this pattern. This
will require acknowledging that these types of relationships are actually
unhealthy (which may not be obvious to a codependent person).
A2. Understand that breaking these ingrained patterns is
very difficult to do alone. Consider working with a counsellor to identify the
roots of the problem, and to separate out what are healthy patterns of relating
from what are unhealthy patterns of relating. Learn how to establish healthy
appropriate boundaries. Work on saying “no”, and putting yourself first.
A3. Step back and allow others to accept full
responsibility for their words, responses, reactions and behaviours. Recognise
the fact that it’s not your job to be responsible for anyone other than
yourself. Don’t assume the blame when other peoples’ lives go wrong.
A4. Keep your focus on yourself and your own needs and
problems. You have your own life to live, and your own challenges to deal
with.
A5. The right thing to do is to take care of your own
life. That’s not being selfish: it’s what all of us should do.
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