When do people feel unlovable
Why Do I Feel Unlovable?
Often when people feel unloveable, it is tied into one of
the following reasons:
1. As a child, a parent or authority figure either told
you – or sent out the message that – you were unloveable. Because of that, you
came to believe that your core self was deficient, unacceptable or
inadequate. Now you find it hard to
believe that anyone could ever love you for just being you.
2. You experienced rejection, desertion or abandonment in
one of your closest relationships. Now love feels scary - and is a source of
anxiety and fear – rather than of healing and security.
3. You feel regret for something you did, or the way you
treated a person you loved. Hence, you don’t believe you deserved to be loved,
or you fear you will badly hurt someone again.
4. You have developed a series of flawed beliefs which
have coloured your expectations for love. For example, you may have concluded
that love leads to pain …. or that no-one can be trusted … or love always
ends.
5. A voice in your head says you cannot change so you
don’t believe that “you have what it takes”. But none of us is perfect; we’re
all on a journey; and if we choose to take a risk then we’ll find that we can
change.
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