Many people say many things after hearing all what they
say i found the actual meaning of personality development. Contrary to what you
may think, you can improve your personality.
Until quite recently it was believed that personality is
permanent. In 1890 William James, the famous Harvard psychologist, wrote in his
influential work The Principles of Psychology, that personality was "set
in plaster" by early adulthood. This view prevailed for over a century;
however, the idea that personality is more fluid has gained ground over time.
We are now at the point where we realize that we have influence and control
over which traits and characteristics we want to develop or refine.
What
is Personality?
The "personality" is the typical pattern of
thinking, feeling, and behaviors that make a person unique.
When we say that someone has a "good
personality" we mean that they are likeable, interesting and pleasant to
be with.
Everyone wants to be attractive to others. To that end, having a good personality is
vital - probably even more so than good looks. In fact, approximately 85
percent of your success and happiness will be a result of how well you interact
with others. Ultimately, it is your personality that determines whether people
are attracted to, or shy away from you.
While we can only enhance our looks to a certain extent,
we have the ability to improve the personality as much as we want. We can
develop or integrate any trait we deem fitting and agreeable.
Here
are some ways we can accomplish this:
1. Be
fun and see the humorous side of life.
Everyone enjoys the company of someone who makes them
laugh, or smile, so look for the humorous, quirky side in a situation - there
always is one. Comic relief is a much welcome and needed diversion at times.
When you can add fun and lightheartedness to an otherwise dull or gloomy
setting, others will naturally be attracted to you, not to mention grateful.
2. Be
supportive of others.
Being supportive is probably the most endearing quality
you can integrate into your personality. Just as you yourself welcome it, be
the support for others when they need it. We all love a cheerleader in our
corner; someone who is encouraging, believes in us and helps pick us up when
we're down.
3. Be
a better listener.
Jacqueline Kennedy Onassis was considered one of the most
charming women in the world because she cultivated the skill of being an
exceptional listener. She was known for the way she would look a person in the
eyes, hang on their every word, and make
them feel important. There is nothing more appealing than having someone listen
to you intently making you feel like you're the only person in the world.
4. Read
more and expand your interests.
The more you read and cultivate new interests, the more
interesting you are to others. When you meet new people it gives you the
opportunity to share what you know and to exchange your views with them.
5. Be
a good conversationalist.
This relates to how much you read and know. Once you have
much to contribute, learn how to talk about it with others. No one can read
about or know everything, so it's refreshing to learn from others those things
we don't have the time to about read ourselves. If you happen to be shy, join a
group like Toastmasters that encourages you to talk about what you know.
6. Have
an Opinion.
There is nothing more tiresome than trying to talk to
someone who has no opinion on anything. A conversation has nowhere to go if you
have nothing to expound on. If, however, you have an uncommon point of view or
differing opinion, you are more interesting and stimulating to be with socially
(unless you're a know-it-all, of course). A unique outlook expands everyone's
perspective.
7. Meet
New People.
Make the effort to meet new people especially those
unlike you. It not only exposes you to different cultures and alternative ways
of doing things, it broadens your horizons.
8. Be
yourself.
The next most tiresome thing after having no opinions is
trying to be something you're not. Molding yourself in order to fit in, or be
accepted, usually backfires. Since each of us is unique, expressing that
uniqueness is what makes us interesting. Attempting to be a carbon copy of
someone else not only falls flat, but reveals a lack of authenticity.
9. Have
a positive outlook and attitude.
Who wants to be around people who are negative, complain
a lot, or have nothing good to say? In fact, most of us run when we see them
coming. Instead, be the kind of upbeat person who lights up a room with your
energy when you enter it. Do it by looking for the best in people and things.
Smile warmly, spread good cheer, and enliven others with your presence.
10. Have
Integrity and treat people with respect.
Being honest and true to your word will bring you the
admiration, respect and gratitude of others. Nothing improves a person's
personality more than integrity and respect - respect for others, as well as
respect for yourself.
We humans have the power and ability to shape our
personalities however we wish. When we develop ourselves to be all that we can
be, we contribute to our own, as well as the happiness of others.
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