As women, we seem practically hard-wired to dis ourselves in
ways we’d never do to a best friend. We get stuck in self-hating, sabotaging
inner dialogue. It’s like a broken record of background music singing “You’re
no good, you’re no good, you’re no good, baby you’re no good, let me tell you again
…”
The problem is that all that time we spend hating on
ourselves makes us feel like crap. And worse, when we get down on ourselves we
don't take action on the things that would actually get us what we want —
confidence, health, the body of our dreams, that dream job …
Total health and success can be yours. And it’s not just a
matter of doing the right detox, the best diet and taking some supplements. You
have to change the things you’re feeding yourself mentally and emotionally,
too!
1. Talk
back to yourself!
When you hear the chatter (or full on holler!) of negative
self-talk, you’ve got to talk back — do battle with the negative inner
dialogue! You have permission to interrupt with a new message, because …
You are so worth taking amazing care of.
You are gorgeous, delicious, and lovable.
You, lady, have arrived and have everything you need.
You, honey, are enough. And then some!
You belong.
You deserve to feel the way you want to feel.
2. Fall
in love with yourself, send yourself love notes and reminder letters!
If you don’t keep a journal, leave yourself love notes and
reminders on stickies, write in eyeliner on your bathroom mirror, pop a note
onto your dashboard, or write one special reminder word right on the palm of
your hand for the day! If you can’t think of something good to say about
yourself at first, do a trade with a girlfriend and write our love notes to
each other to use and trade.
3. Take
yourself out on a date to the spa ... or at least take a long luxurious bath!
There’s nothing like a regular dose of self-love to keep you
on your game. High-performance athletes and business people know this and make
time for recharging and rejuvenating, getting massages, hitting the spa, or
getting outdoors. So take yourself out for a regular spa date (even better if
after a yoga class!), a luxurious afternoon with a book at a cafe sipping tea,
take yourself to a movie — or at least create a special bath time with bubbles
and oils and candles. Loving your beautiful self from head to toe regularly is
a surefire way to tell that nasty self-talk gremlin that he’s not welcome!
4. Get
toxic people out of your life!
I once had a “friend" who would always say things like,
“You look so much better than when I ran into you last.” Another “friend” would
say things like, “Well, I wouldn’t work because I think kids needs their mom at
home," or “I just have no desire to have any career or fame that would
interfere with me being a good mom.” Of course, this was just as my writing
career was launching and when my kids were young.
5. Get
a life coach!
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