7 Amazing Ways to Excuse the People

Thursday, 24 July 2014 0 comments

These seven steps are educational in nature … they are not therapy. Almost anyone can learn to forgive. You, too, can learn to let go of a grudge or grievance and move on to happier and less stressful life by using these simple research proven tools.


1. Know exactly how you feel about what happened and be able to articulate what about the situation is not OK.

Then, tell a trusted couple of people about your experience.

2. Make a commitment to yourself to do what you have to do to feel better.

Forgiveness is for you and not for anyone else.

3. Know that forgiveness does not necessarily mean reconciliation with the person who hurt you, or condoning of their action.

What you're after is to find peace. Forgiveness can be defined as the “peace and understanding that comes from blaming whoever has hurt you less, taking the life experience less personally, and changing your grievance story.”

4. Get the right perspective on what's happening.

Recognize that your primary distress is coming from the hurt feelings, thoughts and physical upset you are suffering now, not what offended you or hurt you two minutes — or 10 years — ago. Forgiveness helps to heal those hurt feelings.

5. Manage your stress.

At the moment you feel upset, practice a simple stress management technique to soothe your body’s flight or fight response.

6. Give up expecting things from other people that they do not choose to give you.

Recognize the “unenforceable rules” you have for your health or how you or other people must behave. Remind yourself that you can hope for health, love, peace and prosperity and work hard to get them.

7. Put your energy into looking for another way to get your positive goals met than through the experience that has hurt you.

Instead of mentally replaying your hurt, seek new ways to get what you want.
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