Putting an end to self-destructing styles is both simple and
challenging at the same time. Simple, because it’s really not that complicated.
It begins with a simple choice.
Challenging, because making that choice (and committing to
it) takes a great deal of self-awareness and a willingness to learn new tools especially
when it comes to managing your own emotions. But whether it takes you one hour
or one year to change a bad habit, the rewards are so worth it for your health, your career, your
relationships, and for everyone who spends time around you.
And if you notice that you’re engaging in the one of the
following six styles? It’s time to drop ‘em. Immediately. You don’t need to
think about it, stress about it, or make a complicated plan. Just make a
commitment. Simply tell yourself: I am choosing to do better, and better begins
today.
1.
Being mean to yourself.
If you say cruel things to yourself that you would NEVER say
to anyone else — not even your worst enemy — it’s time to stop.
2. Not
exercising.
Your body was designed to move. You don’t have to train for
a marathon, but you do need to move, every day.
3. Letting negative emotions build up inside.
When you allow negative emotions to fester inside, it’s like
allowing steam to build inside a pressure cooker. Sooner or later, you’re going
to erupt — either with an angry outburst, or by directing that anger towards
yourself.
4.
Saying yes when you mean no.
If you’re saying YES to things that feel like a distraction,
create feelings of resentment, or literally make you feel sick ... stop.
5.
Blaming your parents for everything.
Maybe your parents did a terrific job raising you — except
for one or two things. Maybe they did a terrible job. Or maybe, it's somewhere
in the middle. Regardless of what your parents did wrong or right, holding onto
unresolved anger is unhealthy. It’s unfair to you and the people around you.
6.
Worrying about the future.
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