How to Know You’re with the Erroneous Person?

We are all on our own journeys of growth and evolution. Ours deep regret is about the relationship we had with ourselves. We teach people how to treat us based on how we feel about ourselves. Today we don’t recognize ourselves in those memories. Once we make a decision to be treated better, we will be.

Here are some questions to ask yourself when you start to sense this might not be the dream relationship that you deserve:

 1. Is your relationship making your life worse, overall?

A quick way to know if you are in a healthy relationship is to ask yourself if the person you are dating is making your life better. Healthy relationships improve our lives. When we let people mistreat us, it takes a toll on other aspects of our lives too.

 2. Are you afraid of the unknown?

Fabulous times await you on the other side. Trust that your best days are ahead of you. (For me, my dream man and my twin girls were on the other side of ending it.) Yes, the unknown is scary, but ending a relationship that weighs heavily on you is ultimately freeing and empowering. And what's even scarier than the unknown in knowing that you're giving up on your own happiness.

 3. Is your relationship encouraging you to become someone else?

If someone is trying to change you, they aren’t deserving of your time. You date to find the right match, not to turn yourself into the right match.

 4. Are you stalling on making a decision?

In retrospect, I can clearly identify early signs that my relationship was unhealthy. Signs that said RUN! You can save yourself precious time and emotional turmoil when you read the signs early and make decisions accordingly.

 5. Are you sacrificing your spark?

If your personality normally shines and suddenly you feel smaller or like your light was dimmed, check your relationship. On some level, we all know when we are putting up with behavior that doesn’t meet our personal standards. 

If you are no longer the person you once were, or friends and family tell you that you don’t seem the same, those are signs that you are in the erroneous relationship with that person.