It
happens to us all, you wake up feeling out of sorts, crabby or cloudy. You don’t know why, you just do. If someone asks what’s wrong you have no
answer.
If they ask you more than once
you might bite their head off! You don’t
want to feel this way but you can’t seem to shake it and it’s just not in you
to fake a good mood. When those off days
happen and you’re not your best self, there are ways to manage yourself so your
mood doesn’t get out of hand and ruin your entire day.
1. Bite your tongue!
Don’t
say everything out loud that pops into your head. Activate your inner filter and block
statements that could sound hurtful, out of line, or crass. This is no time for bloviating; say what needs
to be said with the least amount of words and move on.
2. Do no harm.
Lashing
out at others physically or verbally, will make matters worse and could
escalate into conflict you will regret later.
In every situation there is a choice point; choose to deal with your
mood in a positive non-confrontational way instead of blowing it out of
proportion. I still struggle with this
and beat myself over the head later when I realize how one comment or
attitudinal gesture left undone could have saved the day.
3. Breathe.
I’m
not talking about the shallow, automatic, keep you alive breathing we take for
granted. Sit back in your chair, close
your eyes and breathe deeply, from your diaphragm, in through your nose and out
through your mouth ten times. It sounds
simple and you’ve heard me say it before but millions of people tap into this
powerful practice that brings relaxation and clear thinking, and I believe you
are worthy of it too. Just when you
can’t stand ‘it’ one more minute, purposeful breathing can bring calm to your
chaos which is why it is often a key component in anger management programs.
4. Don’t fight it.
Your
off feeling will not last forever and soon this bad day will be history. As my mother always said, “This too shall
pass”, and while I hated hearing it I have to admit she was right. (But don’t
tell her that, okay?) Accept your
feelings as transient and get busy with life.
When I have off days I draw a sad face or write the words, ‘bad day’ on
my planning calendar; more often than not, a week later, I have no idea what
that bad day was about!
5. Be antisocial.
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