Happiness . It’s the term thrown around more often than any
other term when people are asked what they are looking for in life. A loving
partner, a fun high-paying job and endless world travel are also amongst some
of the most common answers, however all of these are preference-based means to
the one ultimate end, which is happiness. Being so sought-after, I thought I’d
comprise a list of common traits that seem to be found in happy people -and I’m
talking about the genuinely happy people, and not just those who appear to be
so on the surface.
By compiling this list I’m not suggesting that these are the
only keys to happiness, I’m simply shedding light on some common
characteristics I’ve come to find.
1. Love
Themselves For Who They Are
On the surface this may sound incredibly egotistical, but by
it I simply mean that they are truly comfortable in their own shoes. They
accept and embrace themselves physically, they maintain their true character
traits regardless of whether or not they receive approval and they work to make
the best of the human experience they are living -rather than wallow in what
others would define as weaknesses or shortcomings.
2. See
Relationships As An Extension To, Rather Than The Basis Of The Human Experience
Relationships, whether friendly, familial or romantic, are
certainly one of the greatest parts of the human experience. However, far too
many of us let their presence or absence, and even more so the value we
attribute to them dictate our overall happiness in life. I’ve found that
genuinely happy people tend to find complete contentment within themselves, and
see all relationships as the awesome extension to their self-content. It’s
often when we are not looking for others to fill a particular void, or to make
us feel a certain way, that most of the truest and most-valuable relationships
are formed.
3.
Embrace Change
Life is a constant lesson and happy people tend to be
well-aware of that. Not only are they always open to change, but they truly
listen to suggestions, respect and consider all opinions and take criticism
constructively rather than offensively.
4.
Celebrate Rather Than Compare Themselves To The Accomplishments Of Others
Jealousy is a killer, and as Gary Allan once said, “You can
be the moon and still be jealous of the stars.” We are all capable of accomplishing
anything in this life and are the only ones that are going to find the drive
within ourselves to do it. Rather than observe and compare to those who have
accomplished, the truly happy tend to celebrate it and use it as motivation to
accomplish things within their own lives.
5.
Never Dwell In Being A Victim
We’ve all been the so-called ‘victim’ to several things in
life. Whether it be an unexpected break-up, getting fired from a job, or even
something as serious as the recipient of domestic abuse. Truly happy people
tend to be those who choose not to dwell in it. They choose to let the
victimization strengthen them, rather than wear it as a badge of weakness or as
the thing that makes them consistently worthy of receiving sympathy.
6. They
Live In The Present
As fun as reminiscing about the past or fantasizing about
the future can be, nothing will ever be done in anything but the present and
happy people tend to realize that. Not only do they realize it, but they tend
to use it as motivation to make the most of it. In addition to being
motivating, presence can also come in handy for truly appreciating those
moments of relaxation, allowing yourself to be truly in them, rather than
projecting future concerns into them.
7.
Trust That Everything Happens For A Reason
This can very easily be paired with the choice to not be a
victim, but happy people tend to trust the process and existence of everything
in their life. They know that nothing is ever too big to handle and choose to
embrace what life is currently throwing at them rather than cowering at the
sight of it.
8. They
Don’t Let Money Dictate Their Lives
Nobody is denying that in this world right now we all need
money to exist, and as a result many of us spend the bulk of our lives doing
things that help us earn it. What I’ve found to differentiate happy people is
that they don’t let money be the ultimate dictator in their life. They still
make sensible choices within their means, but they never let money: A) prevent
them from pursuing a so-called “risky” passion, B) be the factor that is blamed
for why their life is so miserable, C) complain about how little they have.
There are creative ways to do everything in this world, and seeing money as
only being possible to make in the standard ways is the most crippling thing to
that creativity.
9. Look
Within For Solutions
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