Best tips to be more open with others.
Amazing ways to be more open with others.
How to be more open with others.
Emotional walls are there for a reason!
When we build a wall around our heart, it’s usually because
we’ve been badly hurt. Hence, we’ve learned that it’s dangerous trust other
people as doing that is risky and may cause us pain. However, that can also
leave us feeling empty and lonely, and lacking intimate and meaningful
relationships. But breaking down the walls and being open as a person is often
very challenging, and difficult to do. Some tips to help include the following:
A1.
Persuade yourself that there are good, caring and genuine people out there – as
well as immature, selfish and untrustworthy people.
A2.
Practice by being more open with a family member or close friend you feel
comfortable with. Notice how they respond. Do they turn spiteful
or hurt you in return, or do they respond with sensitivity, and by being open
in return? The chances are that other people will also respond in a similar
way.
A3.
Work on developing your self-confidence. When we feel secure in who we
are, then other people can’t affect us as much. We know that we are valuable
and worthwhile people, with positive qualities and attributes. That is,
accepting yourself fully is a crucial key.
A4.
Recognise that feeling anxious is very normal – but act as if you
actually feel confident.
A5.
Start by sharing stuff that is more superficial. That
is usually much easier and less threatening. For example, comment on sports, or
music or school … and from there progress to sharing your personal feelings.
For example, you might say something like “I’m pretty disappointed about my
mark as I actually studied for the test we had.”
A6. Try
and start more sentences with “I”. That will get you into the
habit of talking about yourself – and regularly sharing what you think and
feel.
A7.
Become a good listener. When people feel listened to and
genuinely cared for they start to usually share more personal stuff with us. As
you start to feel more comfortable and safer with them, you’ll find it so much
easier to take your own walls down.
A8.
Remember it’s a choice – and you can choose to be more open. Just
take it slowly and be patient with yourself.
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