Different Types of Parenting and Outcomes
Interesting parenting styles and outcomes
There are four different styles of parenting, which were
first defined by Diana Baumrind: authoritative
parenting, authoritarian parenting, permissive parenting, and
rejecting-neglecting parenting. In her research Baumrind believed that
these four different styles of parenting all followed under two different
dimensions. The first dimension was demandingness, which is defined by how
demanding a parent is with their child as applied to child’s behavior or
actions. The second dimension was responsiveness, which is defined by how
responsive the parent is when making rules. For example, if a parent tells
his/her child to stop doing a particular activity, this demonstrates their
level of demand. Some parents may go a little bit further once they give a
child a demand and actually respond with a reason as to why he/she should not
do a certain thing. The four different styles that Baumrind defined are based
upon these two different dimensions.
1. The
first style of parenting defined by Baurmind is the authoritative
parenting style. This parent exhibits consistent firm regulations and control,
however, they give clear explanation to their child for their standards.
Authoritative parents are very loving with their children and are supportive of
their child. In addition, these parents are also strong believers of autonomy
for their child.
2. Secondly there
is the authoritarian parenting style. In this style of parenting parents are
very demanding of their child and are not strong believers of giving their
child a response and providing them explanations. They discourage give-and-take
feedback with their child. A parent with this particular style believes that it
is “his/her way or no way. They tell their child what they should do and do not
expect them to give any feedback.
3. Thirdly, there
is the permissive parent. This parent seems to show very little demand when it
comes to following rules, and they pretty much allow their children to do what
they want.
4. Finally, the
rejecting-neglecting parent is one who does not monitor their child’s behavior
and tends to be much disengaged with their child. They do not set any limits
for what they child does. Also, they are not at all responsive, so they do not
provide any type of warmth to their child.
It is believed that the style of parenting will not change
too dramatically over time because parenting styles are defined by parent’s
values, attitudes, and beliefs, and should be consistently stable over a long
period of time.
The style of parenting that produces the most positive
result is the authoritative style.
Children whose parents employ this approach have been found to be happy,
self-reliant and able to cope with stress. They also tend to be popular with
their peers and have good social skills and confidence. They tend to set their
own standards and are achievement oriented. However, children of authoritarian
parents tend to be obedient, orderly, and not aggressive. They lack the
self-esteem and self-control of their peers brought up by authoritarian
parents. These children do not get praised often, and as they grow older, they
tend to be motivated to do things for reward or punishment, rather than for
reasons of right or wrong.
In contrast to other types of parenting, children raised by
permissive parents do not cope with stress very well and get angry if they
don’t get their own way. Also, they can be aggressive and domineering with
their peers and do not tend to be achievement oriented.
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your description of authoritarian parenting couldn't be more accurate. Unfortunately I was married to one of those types of parents. We've been divorced five years and I'm still dealing with the fallout with my sixteen yr old son. I am more of an authoritative parent, which I can see the results in my oldest daughter who is very successful as a young adult, she was old enough when my ex husband came into the picture that is authoritarian ways didn't negatively affect her as much as my two middle children. And my youngest, who is now eight seems to have adjusted well from being removed from the situation. I wonder though is there any way to help my sixteen yr old get through this and find his self esteem and ability to make decisions that don't affect him negatively on a regular basis?
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