Better way to talk
about your feelings.
Here are some best tips that help to talk about your
feelings in a better way.
Do you struggle with talking about your feelings? Has your
partner ever been frustrated with you for not wanting to open up? Some people
are naturally good at talking about their feelings and others need a bit of
help. Here are some tips to help you get better at opening up and talking about
your feelings:
A1: Stick
to short conversations. Marathon conversations about your feelings
are exhausting and overwhelming for everyone, no matter how much you like
talking about emotional stuff. Keep your conversations short at first. It’s
easier to share a couple of thoughts and then leave it at that. You can always
pick the conversation up again later.
A2: Pick
the right time and place. Find a time when you’re alone, uninterrupted
and are feeling comfortable to start talking. Don’t have distractions happening
around you or be in a rush to be somewhere after. The more relaxed you are, the
easier it will be to talk.
A3: Start
small and specific. Don’t try to tackle huge, sweeping subjects
like how you feel about your entire relationship. There’s so much to say and
you’ll get overwhelmed. Instead, pick a specific aspect of your relationship
and talk about that, like how you feel about how you and your partner
communicate with each other.
A4: Practice
on small stuff. Don’t wait until there’s a heavy topic in the
air to start talking about your feelings. Start weighing in on lots of little
things instead, like how a movie made you feel or why you’d rather spend time
alone together this weekend than going out in a group. Think of it as exercises
for talking about bigger, more intense topics later.
A5: Do
it often. Don’t keep your feelings bottled up or they’ll eventually
build up to the point where you’ll want to explode. Instead, get into the habit
of talking it out whenever there is something small or minor on your mind. It’s
easier to express yourself in bite-sized pieces than talking about a huge issue
that’s been building up.
A6: Talk
about the good and bad. People are often afraid of conversations
about their feelings, thinking they need to be negative or intense
conversations. But talking about your feelings can happen anytime, when
something good or bad is happening. If you like something your partner has done
for you, tell them and let them know that it made you happy. Don’t wait to only
talk about problems or issues in the relationship.
A7: Own
up to your nerves. Before starting out a conversation about your
feelings, let your partner know that you’ve had a hard time talking about
emotions in the past and that you’re nervous/rusty/feeling awkward. If you
explain how you’re feeling they’ll have a better idea of why you aren’t opening
up to them and they’ll be more patient and understanding. They might even have
the same feelings too.
A8: Listen
to the way other people talk. Follow the way other people
around you, or even in movies, talk about their feelings. Model yourself after
someone else that you feel has good communication skills. You’ll find your own
style of communicating when you get better at expressing your feelings.
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