It’s the age-old question: why do people cheat? No matter how loving of
a relationship they’re in, or how great their partners are, people still cheat.
There are a number of reasons why people turn to infidelity in their
relationships and here are some of them:
1· They’re
bored. People often cheat as a way of adding excitement or drama to
their lives if they’re bored. They may be bored with their relationship or
their partners, or they may simply be bored with their own lives. Cheating
often has little to do with our partners and more to do with being unhappy with
ourselves.
2· They’re attracted
to something that their partner lacks.People often cheat with people who
are very different from their partners, as a way of trying out something new. If
your partner is very controlling, you might be attracted to someone else who is
a free spirit. People often cheat as a way to take a brief break from something
in their relationship that is bothering them, so they look for someone who has
qualities that they feel their partner lacks.
3· They need an
ego boost. Sometimes people cheat as a way to boost their ego and feel
like they still have the power to attract other people. When you’re in a
relationship for a long time it’s easy to get complacent and let the romance
fizzle out. People often don’t feel desired by their partners and love getting
attention from another person. It makes them feel like they are still
attractive to other people and gives them a sense of validation that they are
missing.
4· They like
the thrill of it. When people start to feel bored with their lives or
their relationships, they start looking for ways to find excitement or create
drama. Cheating can be the perfect way to get this thrill in their lives:
sneaking around, trying not to get caught, and even the idea of the arguments
that would happen if they were caught can be exciting to people who feel their
lives are mundane.
5· They want
revenge. If a person has been hurt by their partner they may cheat as
a form of revenge. Trying to hurt their partner is a way to deflect their own
feelings of being hurt.
6· They’re
simply not happy. If a person cheats, it may be because they are
simply not happy in their relationship. They may feel that they aren’t appreciated,
that their partner isn’t right for them, or that the spark is gone and they
have become complacent. Some people move on by cheating instead of just ending
a relationship that has gone stale.
7· They want to
make their partner jealous. Cheating can be a form of game playing, if
one person in the relationship is trying to make the other jealous. In a
healthy relationship this type of game playing doesn’t take place, but if one
person is looking for a way to make their partner desire them more or see how
it feels to lose them, cheating is often a way that they try to do this. Often
just implying that they want to cheat is enough to make their partner jealous.
8· They’re
trying to sabotage the relationship. Deep down, some people don’t
believe that they deserve to be happy and they often sabotage good
relationships when they start to get too close to their partner. The idea of a
healthy, strong relationship scares some people who don’t believe they deserve
happiness. These people will often cheat as a way of hurting their partner to
the point where they’ll end the relationship.
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