Two Common relationship problems

Two Common relationship problems

Poor communication

This is a common problem with couples

• Has an aggressive or invasive communication style and in response, the other partner withdraws and refuses to communicate
• Tries to employ manipulative  negative emotions, such as anger and sadness to get what he/she wants
• Criticizes his/her partner with rude remarks like  ‘lazy’ or ‘annoying’, rather than having a one to one personal talk it is their partner’s behavior that they dislike.
• Failing to show appreciation or understanding of the other by not physically or emotionally responding to them.

Poor problem-solving skills

Problem solving skills are essential to working out relationship problems. Issues that affects relationships can range from simple things such as having quality and genuine time together to problems such as paying bills or being there when needed most.

Some common barriers to problem solving are:

• Avoiding and using excuses to get not be involved from the problem. This will cause disinterest meaning that he/she is losing feelings for you.
• Choosing the wrong solution before examining and considering all other options. For instance, thinking that a long holiday together will forget/fix the solution rather than looking at minor changes that may enhance or significantly improve the relationship
• Trying to solve the problem alone. Lack of communication together may lead to one party blaming the other when things do not work out

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