You
don’t need permission
Do you remember the time when you had to ask for
permission to do something? A kid. How trembling did you feel inside when
something was forbidden? And how good and guilty did you feel for trying to do
something from that forbidden list having the courage and overcoming your
stolen freedom to be yourself in order to discover who you truly are?
And when someone asked me if I miss being a child I
laughed out loud remembering parents and other “good” wishers that tended to
transfer their own insecurities, doubts, fears and false beliefs into pure soul
and mind of a new human being. No, I definitely don’t miss that. But I learned
a lot though. Well guess what, you don’t need permission to be yourself now and
discover new and exciting things!
Give
yourself credit
In childhood at some point some of you might have had a
couple of “good” wishers who constantly were there for you to evaluate whether
you can or cannot do things, like drawing, or dancing or chasing your dream
because they found it both stupid and naive (from their perspective, of
course). Those falls and limiting beliefs are nothing more than potential
brakes. Good “wishers” from childhood might be gone by now, but habits of
making doubts and excuses inside of us usually still sit there and dictate our
behaviour. Be aware of that. Learn to distinguish the voice of your own from
voices echoing from your past. And remember that the only person you have to
answer to is yourself.
People
take different roads seeking fulfillment and happiness. Just because they’re
not on your road doesn’t mean they’ve gotten lost… – Dalai Lama
What’s
your story?
Do you have something you wished to try for years even
decades but something was constantly holding you back? Some old story that you
have had in your head for years that was giving you excuses not to go out there
and explore.
For the last 23 years I had a firm belief that my hands
grow from other places but shoulders and that I suck at drawing, crafts and
other “handy business”. I never tried. Why should I if I’ve heard a billion
times that I can’t? That I don’t have a natural talent or gift to do anything
creative…. There is no such thing as a natural talent so to speak. If you are
interested in something – you just go and spend some quality time learning it
in order to get better at that skill. As one wise man notes: “ people become
experts by putting in thousands of hours” into work that they love.
Our
doubts are traitors and make us lose the good that we often may win by fearing
to attempt. – William Shakespeare
Put your doubts aside. Get out there and explore whatever
you’re into! Give yourself permission and forget about the limits that were set
for you by other people. Remember, those limits are only in your mind and you
have the power to believe whether they are real or not.
Instead
of worrying about what people say of you, why not spend time trying to
accomplish something they will admire. – Dale Carnegie
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