Why most people are Day Dreamers?
Why do we fantasize and day dream?
Why do we fantasize about other people?
Why do we visualize ourselves as heroes, saviors or
legendary characters?
Have you evergot all these questions? Then here is the
Answer for all your questions...
The human brain was designed brilliantly. It can allow us
to imagine ourselves going anywhere, at anytime and with anyone. While that
brain feature is very tempting to use not all people use it with the same
frequency.
Some people for example waste the whole day fantasizing
about different things, Others only fantasize when they do a certain task that
requires concentration such as studying or working.
So the question is, why don't we all fantasize equally?
This
is why people Fantasize and day dream
Below are the most common reasons that motivate people to
fantasize:
1)
Planned distraction: Sometimes you find yourself in confusing
situations where you have to do a certain task because its important yet in the
same time you find it unbearable. Studying a difficult chapter or doing a hard
task might be very unpleasant and that's where your subconscious mind moves in
to distract you with fantasies on purpose. When i used the term planned
distraction i wasn't referring to your conscious plans but rather to the plans
of your subconscious mind
2)
Fear:
Let’s suppose that your subconscious mind believed that you wont get good
grades even if you studied well. In such a case your self esteem will be
affected badly as a result of believing that you are not incompetent. How can
this problem be solved? Simply by day dreaming all day you wont have a time to
study and when you get bad grades you can safely blame your inability to
concentrate instead of blaming your mind.
3)
Unfulfilled dreams and unmet goals: Most people fantasize
about what they didn't manage to do in real life. One of the most common uses
of a fantasy is to satisfy a need that you couldn't manage to satisfy in the
real world. For example, if you always wanted to marry a certain person but
that person got married then you might start fantasizing about being with him
4)
Running away: When reality becomes too tough to be
handled many people escape to fantasies in order to feel better. That's why
people fantasize more often after going through drastic failures. After
experiencing some kind of a loss a person might start fantasizing just to run
away to a virtual world where he can feel more in control.
5)
Reflection of suppressed desires: Many people fail to
communicate their real needs to others as a result of social pressure. Some
people have uncommon desires that they can't state because of shame. Those
people usually use fantasies to unleash these desires without experiencing
shame. This is also the reason why your fantasies can tell a lot about your
personality.
Can
fantasies really help?
In most cases fantasies are of no real use. In fact fantasies
can do more harm than good. While creative visualization can help a person
become more motivated to pursue his goals fantasies can slow down a person's
progress since they allow him to escape.
If you escape to a fantasy world very frequently then
know that you are not happy with your real world. Instead of fantasizing about
things that won't happen put your energy into you real world in order to change
it to the better.
If your mind has certain needs then nothing can help you
fulfill them except serious actions and not day dreams.
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