In this Beautiful world there are many Beautiful girls/boys
but why you fell in love with the particular girl/boy. Have you ever had this
question? Do you in love or do you had a question of why we fall in love.
Why Do We Fall In Love? (Based on the psychology of
falling in love)
You were walking down the street, nothing was unusual and
then suddenly she came out from a nearby shop and it happened that you fell in
love with her at the first sight! Huhh!! What happened?!!
The answer is simple, its all related to how your mind
works. If you are single or currently not in a relationship then your mind will
always be on a hunt for your long awaited partner. Even if you think that you
don't care about relationships now still you will fall in love with the first
person who matches your criteria.
But
why she? Why not someone else?
Each one of us has got some kind of a check list stored
into his mind which includes the criteria that a person must meet in order for
you to love him. If a person didn't match some of the items in this list then
he becomes disqualified to be a potential partner and you will think of him as
a friend. The items in your check list are of course unique and specific to you
depending on your background, values, past experiences and beliefs.
The following is an example of the first three lines of a
check list of a guy called Sam. Sam is a guy and his list starts with the
following three conditions:
Item
one:
She must have the same educational background as mine.
Item two: Her hair must be yellow (Sam always failed to
establish successful relationships with blonds in his past and so his
subconscious mind included this item in his list in order to help him
compensate for his past failures)
Item
Three: She must be assertive. Sam wasn't an assertive person
and since we get attracted to those who have what we need therefore Sam's mind
included this item in his criteria.
If Sam is currently not in a relationship and then he met
an amazing girl who has black hair then most likely he won't fall in love with
her (without understanding that the real reason he didn't love her is that she
didn't match his subconscious criteria).
People are usually unaware of their subconscious criteria
and that's why they usually describe love as a mysterious thing that follows no
rules but the truth is that when they become aware of their subconscious
criteria they will be able to know why they fall in love with certain people
and not others.
Once you become aware of your own list you will know how
to stop loving someone and how to make someone fall in love with you. (see how
to make someone fall in love with you)
Why
do some people never recover from breakups
That's why people who think that the "the one"
or the "soul mate" concept is true never recover from breakups. Those
people think that there is only one match for their criteria in this world and
because they aren't aware of the fact that there are hundreds of people out
there who could meet their criteria they never recover from breakups.
In my book “How to get over someone in few days” i said
that you can fall in love with any person as long as he matches your
subconscious criteria and that's why you should never feel bad after a breakup,
simply because sooner or later you will find another person who matches your
criteria and he may even be better than the first one.
Yes it does. If someone met your unconscious criteria the
same moment you saw him then most probably you will fall in love with him at
the first sight.
You might be asking yourself, how can i know that he
meets my criteria while i never talked to him before? The answer is simple, the
criteria might include items like the way he walks, talks or looks at you.
This could also happen if the person's actions or looks
reminded you of someone you loved before (people usually fall in love with
those who are similar to the ones they loved before).
If your criteria depends heavily on looks then your
chance of falling in love at the first sight will be much higher than that of a
person who gives higher priority to personality or other qualities. (For more
details see Does love at first sight really exist?)
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