After
reading all the articles on problem solving on the internet i found the best
way to solve the problem and the way is...
You may not
believe me, but writing all the thoughts in your head down on paper (old
fashioned style with a pen or pencil) will clear your head and give you the
opportunity for a fresh perspective.
You can
flush all the bad emotions and stress out of your system. You can write all the
pros and cons of your dilemma and you can give yourself all the possible action
steps you could take to overcome your problem.
Another
reason why writing will help you solve your problems is because it allows you
to distance yourself from your problems. Often you get so caught up in the
situation that you can’t “see the forest through the trees” anymore. Your
judgement is clouded by emotions and by the direct involvement in your
situation.
The art of
problem solving is through writing, you’re able to separate yourself from your
problems, and view them as an observer. This allows you to make logical and
less emotional decisions how to solve them.
The Art of
Problem Solving – Here’s How
The method
I’m about to describe to you I call “the art of problem solving”. It’s simple
and it will help you solve your problem in 20-60 minutes.
You need a
couple of sheets of paper (I prefer an A4 notepad) and a pen.
Find a room
or place where you will not be distracted. Turn off your phone, the TV and your
computer.
Start
writing the first things that come to mind. Write down exactly how you are
feeling and what you are thinking without thinking about it.
You may
think that you need to start writing logical solutions for your problem, but
you first need to clear your head and spill your heart out. Flush those bad
emotions out, confide in the paper…it won’t judge you.
It may take
you 1 page and it may take you 10 pages of writing before you feel some sort of
a total relief from the emotions that have been holding you in a tight grip for
so long. Only once you feel like you don’t want to write anymore (and you feel
better about yourself) should you move on to step 2.
A while ago
I had a situation that was bothering me, and I wrote 3 pages for this step. I
wrote things like, “Ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh”, “Why is this happening”, “This sucks,
sucks sucks”. It might sound a little crazy to you, but that is exactly the
point. You want to let it out, not keep the emotions in. Scream, vent and go
crazy (on paper).
Trust me, it
works.
This is the
“logical” part that requires some unbiased, clear thinking (that’s why you
needed to vent and clear your head in step 1).
On a blank
page, write down exactly what your problem is. If your partner cheated on you,
write that. If you lost your job and have no income, write that. If your friend
stole from you, write that. Just write down exactly what your problem is so
that you can focus on the root of it, and not on all the consequences that stem
from it.
After writing
down your problem, you need to write down every single solution for your
problem that you can think of, no matter how crazy or expensive it may seem.
Write them down, one under another.
A reason why
you need to write down all the solutions to your problems is because of the
fact that often you know what you need to do in order to make your problems go
away, but the solution that you know is the right one may not always be the
easiest one. If you write down all possible solutions to your problems, you may
just see that the solution you dread but know is best, is actually the best out
of all the options you wrote down.
Step 3 is
for you to take everything you’ve written down and put it away for at least 24
hours.
What you’ve
just spent the last 20-60 minutes writing down is exactly how you felt, your
problem and all the possible solutions to your problem that you could think of.
But you may have missed something, and you may have written things down in
anger or in your emotional state that are not the smartest decision you could
make.
That’s
exactly why you need to let the dust settle and take a break before you make a
final decision. Put your papers away for at least a full day (if you have a few
days it’s even better) and don’t think about it for that time.
After a day
(or few days), you should read over everything you’ve written down. This time
you should feel less attachment to your emotions and the words you’ve written,
almost like you’re an observer reading someone else’s words.
Once you’ve
read through the possible solutions you wrote down, it should be clear which is
the best one that will solve your problem.
Parting
Advice: The Art of Problem Solving
I know that
I don’t know what you’re going through right now, or what obstacles you’re
facing in your life.
I’ve
personally been through some very tough times in my life where I had decisions
to make that changed everything. I’ve learned that there will always be times
when “shit hits the fan”, but I also believe that these times are necessary to
test you as a person.
There is no
guarantee that things will get better immediately, but the best advice I can
give you is to always make decisions that you know deep down in your heart are
the right ones. If you make any decisions against your heart or your
conscience, you’re likely going to end up regretting those decisions in the
future, but if you follow your heart then you just did the best you could do.
What ever you want ask me i will help you...
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